Bora Bora Day #3: “The Dao of Getting Money, and the root of the Malignant Adult Money Phobia…”
I couldn’t get any videos uploaded today (internet is not fast enough, unfortunately – look out for when I get home ), I wanted instead to talk about something that I believe is the single greatest inhibitor to the financial success of people in every industry.
I’ve observed something now for a year and a half that completely perplexed me when I first became aware of it, and even now makes me stop for a second and wonder – and that’s trying to answer the question of WHY people who are equally talented and have strong work ethics fail to make a lot of money online.
At first, I thought it had to be something that I couldn’t see they were doing wrong, and I was doing right – an education problem. With talented people, education is very rarely a problem. Yes, sometimes people who are talented just need a few tidbits of knowledge and they have a breakthrough – more often, however, I’ve observed that people have a financial disease that I’d like to call ‘Money Phobia’.
Money Phobia isn’t really different from another kind of phobia. Phobias, as I pointed out in an earlier post, are a product of a reflex memory – played over and over again, a negative experience can create a hard wired reality of fear, tension, or negativity surrounding almost any activity. After a reflex is formed, you don’t even need to understand what caused it any more for it to fire off – instead, you experience nonsensical emotional experiences – like walking into an elevator and all of the sudden becoming afraid – or going to pickup the phone and getting cold sweats.
Money Phobia works the same way – but all to often people don’t know they have it until they’re in such a bad situation that they HAVE to change the phobia to survive.
This is a retarded, but all too often true example of how a money phobia is created:
You’re young (maybe 6 or 7) and you see your Mom and Dad arguing violently about Money, because really – there’s never enough – and you are afraid, because you’ve never seen them mad like that.
For 3-4 days, you keep replaying the memory (the key) and feeling afraid, and your nervous system forms a hard wired reflex connection that Money = Fear. From then on, every time you think about Money, you automatically feel a slight ‘stay away’ impulse from your nervous system – after about a week, you don’t even need the original memory to stimulate the response – the idea of money is enough to create tension and un-ease.
The funny thing is – two people could form opposing reflexes from the same event. Sibling A could see that and say ‘NOT having money = FEAR” while sibling B might see ‘Money = FEAR’. See the difference? I would be from that example, that Sibling A would never have a lack of money their entire life, and wouldn’t know why if you prodded them. Sibling B would always struggle, and not know or remember why.
The problem arises for Sibling B – now, not knowing why – EVERY gosh danged time they are in a situation where they can create success – disaster manifests everywhere. It’s not too far of a stretch to have thing happen like – multiple real estate deals falling through in the same week, getting fired for being late just before being hired for a big promotion, you’re about to finally have money to invest in a business – but your nervous system freaks out and you blow the money on strippers, etc.
The realtor would see the deals falling through as ‘cosmic chance’ or ‘bad luck‘ but the reality is that he sabotaged both deals doing stupid things that he would almost never do – except for the fact that his nervous system is repelling him from money.
Don’t believe it? Think about your own life - do you have enough money? If not – what happened last time you almost had a boat load of it? Does the phrase ‘boat load of delicious money’ make you feel uncomfortable or evil? (it doesn’t with me, or anyone else with lots of money, either – in fact, it kind of makes me smile)
Here are some other things in society that form ‘Mind Viruses’ or ‘Money Phobia’ throughout our lives:
1. The classic ‘hero archetype’. The hero is always poor, the villan is always rich – after a while – society instilled values form a reflex connection of distaste and dissatisfaction towards ‘evil money’. Think about Superman and Lex Luthor. Who’s rich and who’s poor? The poor, broke farm boy has super powers – and the rich guy is an evil bastard always jealous of the poor guy. This is a classic hero-archetype, completely not based in reality that is manifest and believed through major media outlets all over the world in thousands of different shows. If you ever watch the show ‘Smallville’ for example – anyone in the show with money has emotional problems, marriage problems, bad ethics, depression, etc – whereas all of the poor people are happy.
Where in crap do we get the idea that being poor = happy?
“I may not have money, but at least I’m happy!” Says Farmer Billy. Here’s the problem – what the heck does happiness have to do with money at all? Don’t you see the issue with such a common, misplaced statement? We should have happiness whenever we choose, independent of outside forces like money – or anything external, because happiness is an internal state.
2. Money is the root of all evil (and other religious nonsense). The reality is – as my friend Mark Hoverson pointed out in a recent course (can’t remember the name – but it’s REALLY, really good stuff, along with everything Hoverson does) is that the Bible says no such thing. If you’re Christian and you believe that money is evil (biblically) you’re being retarded and replaying mind viruses that you learned from TV.
The Bible says that ‘The LOVE of money is the root of all kinds of evil” (specifically) – but someone that literally believed money was evil would form a ‘guilt phobia’ eventually surrounding money, just because they think it helps them be a good Christian. Without realizing it, they would sabotage promotions at work, blow money that was intended for successful investments, and other stupid nonsense that we all do at one point. As a result? They pay less tithing, work harder for less, give less, sacrifice happiness, and put un-needed stress on themselves.
This one is so pervasive and is the WORST money phobias of them all (there’s no more powerful retardant than mis-placed guilt). If you are a Christian – the richest people in the Bible were the most righteous, and when they were less righteous, they had their money taken away – not the opposite. Solomon lost a great deal of his wealth, as did David – when they sinned – not when they were doing what God wanted. If you’re going to use the Bible to show that poor = anything – you could say that poverty = sinfulness by that same logic. (In my opinion, both are a bit retarded – just pointing out the mind virus… The reality is, having money isn’t good or evil, and in most cases, isn’t a reward for either righteousness or sinfulness – it’s a tool like a hammer, nothing more – or like having one pair of pants versus another – it has nothing to do with happiness or sadness – it’s just there.)
3. The society phobia. Society itself is complete poison towards happiness and success. I remember sitting through hundreds of hours of pure nonsense that was there to teach me to get a long, long boring ass job.
I’m not kidding – think about the negative programming caused by listening to people struggling with money our ENTIRE lives – ever thought about that? Ever known a high school or junior high teacher who wasn’t broke? (I literally have never met even one – they just don’t make enough money to thrive, unfortunately). That’s why I think public schools are bad for the world. We get the views of people that may or may not have right philosophies, and who don’t know how to do what we want embedded in our subconscious just by being around them.
Just the opposite – teachers (unfortunately) and they’d be the first to admit this – a. don’t get paid enough and b. rely on the ‘non-entrepreneur-low-pay’ model of the employee.
These are the people creating our belief programming through our formative years.
Why am I bringing this up? Well, I could go on for hours, but my wife and I are scheduled in for a couple’s massage out here in Bora Bora in about 60 minutes.
The point is, that probably if you’re struggling – you have a money phobia or two. It’s not a problem – I did, as well (and as the result, I just couldn’t make money no matter how hard I tried). It sucked – BIGTIME.
Now, let me share with you the truth about money.
1. Money is neither good or evil, it’s an object like a hammer. You can use it to construct great architecture, or drive a nail through the side of someone’s head. It’s YOU that creates the appearance of good or evil by what you do with the money – not the money itself.
2. It’s not morally better or worse to have either more or less money in life. In fact, it takes the same amount of work to make $5 an hour as it does to make $5,000 – the money output of work has more to do with the efficiency of the money-getting system than it does with the ‘morality’ of it.
3. Rich people are not evil all the time – in fact, when you get to know them, rich people tend to be good in higher ratios than poor people. The reason is obvious – there is less motivation to do bad stuff when you don’t have any ‘survival needs’ that are not met. I challenge you – get rich quick, meet some rich people, and see what they’re like and prove me wrong. Here’s a question – did the phrase ‘get rich quick’ cause discomfort?
Why? Is there no such thing? What TV program are you replaying in your head for proof? (I sure got rich quick, didn’t I? ever met someone else who did? Doesn’t it seem that EVERYONE who gets rich does it quickly? Why are we uncomfortable with an idea that is actually true, readily accessible, and beneficial if we believe it?)
4. You may as well get as much money as possible in life, since you’re going to work anyways. This is already creating some discomfort in at least 90% of the people reading it. Is it uncomfortable to think about getting as much money as you can? Why? What’s your mind virus? Do you think this might be responsible on a smaller level from having the success that you deserve?
5. Since money is an inanimate object, devoid of morals – and it doesn’t take any more work one way or another to have varying amounts – stop being retarded about it. Seriously – have you ever allowed yourself to have the ‘no money’ objection to something you wanted in life? Stop it. Thinking ‘there’s not enough’ automatically creates negative emotions and manifests as poverty in life. There’s PLENTY enough for you and everyone around you. If you’re being tight with your wallet, you’re going to have a bunch of friends and associates who are all poor. Cut it out and stop being a moron.
(hey, I’m talking strong because I was a moron, too – so I can relate, but that’s not a reason to wallow around in dumb excuses).
6. You’re not responsible for other people’s success or failure – they are. A lot of times in THIS INDUSTRY – people have issues asking people for money, because they’re worried about whether or not they’re going to fail or succeed.
That’s NOT your responsibility it’s theirs. Want to know how much help I’ve really had from my combined uplines in Network Marketing? None, before I was already successful. However, one time I had a non successful upline who wanted to help me all the time with everything.
Want to know how many times my upline diamond called me in Amway, begging to know how many people I had prospected that day? Never. He wasn’t worried about it because it’s not his responsibility. Getting mad at the lack of help? I was, then I got over it – and I got rich quick – I’d suggest you do the same.
Here’s a quick test, to see what kind of deadly money phobias you’re carrying around. Which of the following statements, when read aloud – make you a little uncomfortable? (I’m serious – read them aloud)
“I want lots of money!”
“Let’s get rich quick!”
“Poverty sucks balls!”
“My bank account has lots, and lots of delicious, wonderful money in it!”
“I’m going to get as much money as humanly possible – heck, why not?“
“Being poor your whole life is immoral and irresponsible!”
“It sure is fun blowing money on whatever I want – overflowing and oozing with lots of cash is cool…”
Seriously, which ones – when you read aloud, make you a little nervous/uncomfortable/guilty/scared, etc? If the answer is EVEN ONE of them, you’ll sabotage your ultimate money getting greatness, and I’d suggest you cut it out, immediately. (more on how to do that later) A rich person might think this exercise was ridiculous, but would have no emotional attachments whatsoever to any one of those sentences – other than that they would probably find them a bit amusing.
A poor person, however, who had been poor their whole life, might get mad at all of them, and might even write an angry comment below and share how evil (confirmed again) all of those ‘rich bastards’ are.
I challenge you to have no emotional attachment whatsoever to money, and to demystify it and stop being ludicrous in your responses. After all – if money isn’t good or evil – why not get more of it, and get rich quick?
P.S. There are only a few seats left to my ‘Private Coaching’ series called ‘The Perpetual Funnel System’ (I believe 5 seats left this morning, but not quite sure) – course participants are going to have a special opportunity to take part in something where we’re going to teach you how to absolutely destroy your money phobias, and wipe them out of your nervous system. Click here for more information on the coaching course.