4 Disastrous Habits Of Unhappy People
Let’s be real here. Circumstances can definitely make someone unhappy, or at least play a role in one’s unhappiness. If you’ve been dealt a shit hand, sometimes you can’t help but feel unhappy.
With that said, a LARGE part of our happiness comes from within. It comes from our thinking, talking, behavior and actions. It’s very easy to generalize unhappy people and happy people. They share common traits and habits.
If a Buddhist monk can be happy with nothing but the clothes on his back; you can be happy with whatever your circumstances are right now. Here are just 4 disastrous habits that will make you unhappy. If you’re guilty of any of them; you need to stop them now.
1. Surrounding Yourself With Negative Influences
This is probably the worst ‘habit’ of anyone trying to be even remotely happy or successful. Who you talk to, what you read, listen to and watch has a massive impact on your life. Your input, whatever you put into your brain controls your thoughts and speech. Together they form your beliefs and values.
If you surround yourself with negative chatter… With people who tell you “life is unfair”, “you can’t always get what you want”, “your business is a pipe dream” and “you need a safe & secure job”; you will most inevitably become unhappy.
These influences will form beliefs deep within your subconscious mind underneath your awareness. With negative influences these will be limiting beliefs. Limiting beliefs are the sole reason 99% of people don’t get what they want out of life. They have these ridiculous beliefs like “I’m not capable of building a business”, “I’ll never find a spouse” or the classic “you have to work hard to make money”.
Change your input, your influences; and you will change your entire belief system.
2. Living In The Past
This is a deadly habit! Accidents happen, mistakes are made. You can’t live life thinking about how you could have prevented a disaster in the past. Lost all your money? Lost your wife to another man or screwed up a relationship? You have to move on; there is zero point spending any energy whatsoever thinking about bad past experiences. It can damage you, significantly. It can tear you apart.
To be truly happy, you have to focus on the now. If you don’t, life passes by and you’ll miss a whole load of opportunities.
3. Focusing On What You Don’t Have
I’m not sure what’s worse; focusing on what you don’t have or surrounding yourself with negative influences. Both are near equally as bad as each other. If you go through life thinking about what you don’t have; you will only attract exactly that; what you don’t have. You will attract the same life, nothing will change for you.
You can’t go through life comparing yourself to others. Most people compare their jobs, incomes, cars, houses and social statuses with those around them. All you’ll accomplish doing this is lowering your own self esteem.
You have to realize that you are excellent. You are powerful beyond belief and you have come so far and overcome countless obstacles in life. Life isn’t a competition, if you think you’re competing you’re limiting your success. Instead of focusing on what you don’t have, focus on what you do have.
Gratitude is essential for attracting what you want and being unconditionally happy. If you’re grateful for what you have, appreciate how far you’ve come; you’ll only attract more positive things. You’ll expect more of the positive in your life and more will come. Gratitude is a universal law always in motion.
Unhappy people procrastinate. They don’t act on their instincts, they don’t listen to their intuition. If you’re one of those people who procrastinates before you do anything; make a conscious effort to be more spontaneous.
Write down a list of 5 things you can quite easily do each week. A trip to another country? Go-karting? Starting a business? Whatever it is, act on impulse, instinct and intuition. It’s difficult to be more spontaneous. The best tactic is to set a date for something you know you’ll procrastinate about.
When the date arrives, you’ll feel that tug, that feeling of procrastination. Simply practice overcoming that feeling and doing what you want to do. Practice overcoming that feeling.
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